Opinions of a murri woman...

Opinions of a murri woman...

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Case Of Their Exes......


Men and me... I don’t know what it is about me, but I just can’t seem to catch a break with the opposite sex... 

I’m going to be completely blunt and say what the f*ck is up with men and their ex/baby momma dramas? My friends get so frustrated with me because when I meet a new guy there’s always a ‘but’ to it... ‘He’s really nice, but... He’s sweet and funny and good looking but... ‘He treats me respectfully, he understands my commitments, but’.... There’s always a damn story attached to these guys and it’s not just the odd one that’s got dramas, it’s deadest every single one that I meet... 

I’m 27, I have the most baggage of anyone I know and will admit that... I have trust issues, I’m not really affectionate, I don’t really fall in love too quickly and to be honest, I’ve been single for that long, all I know how to do is play the field and aren’t usually satisfied... I always have options... That doesn’t mean I have a different guy over every night, far from it, it just means I don’t just have one guy on my radar... Experience has taught me that if you have a backup plan, your heart won’t hurt as much if the first option falls through... Yes, how very male of me... Seeing as I’ve lived this single life for so long, it’s hard for me to break out of this mentality and quite frankly, why should I with today’s ‘Men Climate’... If anything, I feel I’m one of the lucky females because I know the single game and play it quite well...

I guess what I’m trying to say is, at my age, I can’t expect to meet a man who has no baggage or some sort of drama attached to him... Everybody has got a past, but there comes a point where you get that fed up with being the rebound girl or the girl before the next girl... 

Why do men think its okay to drag you into their shit lives knowing damn well their not over their ex? The answer is quite easy: Because they can... The bullshit men put us through us got my mind and soul destroyed... It’s simple... If you got baby momma/ex girlfriend dramas, if you’re not over it, if she’s still in your life, if you’re still stressing over her, if you still live with her, if you still talk to her family, DON’T TRY AND MEET ANYBODY ELSE UNTIL YOUR DONE WITH THAT!!! It’s seriously the worst shit ever you could do to another person... Why men think this is acceptable behavior is beyond me!!!
It’s like I have a flashing sign on my head for men who have mega dramas saying ‘Come f*ck with me, I like and need all of your drama’... The truth is, I just want to be left alone... I don’t go looking for these men; they just seem to find me.... 

In the last 3 weeks, I’ve deleted at least 3 guys off my radar... 3 out of 3 had ex dramas... 3 out of 3 hit on me... 3 out of 3 dragged me into their shit and played mad mind games knowing damn well they weren’t over their ex... It’s fair to say my mental health hasn’t been the best dealing with one joker after another... 



Where does one meet the guys who have no ex dramas? Am I being too hopeful of a stress free man? Am I being unrealistic in saying that it shouldn’t be too hard to just find a nice guy who won’t drag me into his shit then bounce or is this just a black girl curse? 

There are a lot of cold hard truths in this blog post but that’s the way it has to be... Ladies, who are reading this, please do as I say and not as I do... And fellas, if you’re reading this, all we ask is that you leave your ex behind and move forward with the good girls that come into your life... Don’t punish us for your ex’s mistakes; don’t be half arsed on your decision to move on or that you’re over her... Just be sure and know what you want... If it’s not us, tell us from the start and don’t waste our time.... It’s THAT Easy... 

Till next time... 


One love, one life x