Opinions of a murri woman...

Opinions of a murri woman...

Monday, April 23, 2012

Girl Interrupted.............


So the relationship you wanted didn’t work out... You’ve replaced faith with reality and moved on from that guy who broke your heart... Months have gone by, you’ve deleted him off your facebook, deleted his number, talked to other guys in between and made a promise to yourself that you’re over him and are moving on with your life...

You’re at that stage in your life where you’re doing well and are back to your feeling like your old self before the stabbing of the heart and the ripping up of whatever little bit of love you had to give occurred... It’s at this point, I’d like to know exactly what kind of freaky ass pheromones do us women give out that makes men from our past want to come back into our lives and screw with our brains again after coming so far....

Girl interrupted couldn’t be any truer... See the thing about us women is we cop a lot of shit from men.... ALOT, but somehow we seem to be able to move on to some extent and live our lives one day at a time and deal with heartbreak like champions (well some of us do, most of the time)... It’s like men know... It’s like they can smell our success and our climbing self esteem and want to jump back on board and beat us back down again... Why? For a sense of control? Their low self esteem? Their lack of love and respect for themselves or is it simply because they can?

Why do we let exes back into our lives? This continuous game of cat and mouse with each other is exhausting but maybe we just want to show each other that we’re capable of a life without each other... We’re a funny bunch, women and men; we play games without even knowing it and some of us play with the intention to break hearts or to prove to ourselves that we can resist temptation from those who once held our heart in their hands, and some of us play to take back the control they once held over us... Either way, it’s a dangerous game to play, yet we’re in it even if we don’t mean to be...


Is it just coincidence that men from our past return in our lives right at the point where we are enjoying our lives without them? Just when you’re over it, BOOM, they make a return and I sit here and wonder why... The most obvious answer is that it’s to test you to see if you’ve learnt anything from your past mistakes... Will you give in to temptation and all their playing ways again, or will you resist and persist with your new path without them?

Easier said than done...

Here’s the real answer... They haven’t come back into your life because they miss you and want to be with you... If they wanted that, they wouldn’t of let you go in the first place... The truth is, they’ve returned because they are bored and have no real options left in their ‘woman bank’... They’ve exhausted all their options, broken other’s hearts in the time it took you to get over them, and are now returning because they simply have no one else to turn too... Harsh but true... Men are physical creatures and it would be dumb to think that their simply returning because they miss you and want to be with you...

Again, I’m just replacing faith with reality and being truthful to myself and using my experience from the past to see clearly the intentions of the one who once broke my heart.... Turns out, he has no apologies and is planning to do it all over again, only this time, I can see it coming...

I turned 27 a week and a half ago and I see age both as a blessing and as a negative.... A blessing because I’m getting better at reading men and all their game playing tactics and it’s a negative because with age, I’m also losing trust for more and more men as the years go on... The more games, the more heartaches means the less love I’m willing to give....On a positive note, I’ve still got a lot of love to give, but it won’t be given to just anyone anymore...

To all the sisters out there wishing they didn’t have to deal with their exes... I’m hearing you, but let’s face them together... Replace faith with reality, be honest and learn your lessons... Take back the control and free yourself from their bullshit...


Until next time...

One love, one life... x